DrFeelGood : It’s another great day in the neighborhood! How are you today my lady?
Me: Hey doc! You’re pretty chipper this morning!
DrFeelGood : I am always excited for Friday especially to see you Salt!
Salt tilts her chin squints her eyes to look at DrFeelGood and replies: Why is that doc? Am I the hardest nut you’ve had to crack?
DrFeelGood : My patients aren’t nuts, or crazy Salt. You just need a little help and are smart enough to ask for it.
Now today you are supposed to have prepared a grocery list right?
Me: Yes a list of what I don’t have and won’t find in a man! 🤦🏽♀️
DrFeelGood : Well you certainly won’t with your mind already made up. You must be open to the possibility Salt.
Me: Been there. Done that. Now I’m here with you doc!
DrFeelGood: What do you mean?
Me: I been open to possibilities and everything that could possibly go wrong did! I been married three times and I’m convinced there’s no good possible outcome. Everyone is looking out for themselves.
DrFeelGood : There is hope for you Salt. Let’s examine those three marriages and see if we can find what went wrong.
Me: My first marriage didn’t end in divorce. He died in a car accident.
DrFeelGood: That wasn’t a failure on your part. That was an unfortunate thing that happens everyday.
Me: Which is why I don’t understand why people don’t care more about love when they have a real relationship. They have something real and throw it away!
DrFeelGood : Let’s talk about marriage number two. Was it your failure as you see it?
Me: Marriage number two is complicated. We share responsibility in that failure although, I took on more of that responsibility in the beginning than I should have maybe.
DrFeelGood : How’s that Salt? Start at the beginning.
Me: We met when we were teenagers. I was naive. He took advantage. I followed him to his other girlfriends house and dumped him. He charmed me into letting him back in and we kept up the song and dance for a while.
DrFeelGood : Well whats your take away from that failed marriage?
Me: Don’t expect a cheater to be faithful.
DrFeelGood : So everybody who cheats will continue to cheat?
Me: Yep! Once a cheater always a cheater.
DrFeelGood : I don’t like cliches but a better one is to expect the unexpected.
Me: You’re right about that doc! I don’t expect men to do much else.
DrFeelGood : It’s better to not place expectations on someone. You should have a conversation early on about what you want out of the relationship.
Me: Isn’t that code for expectations? Sounds the same to me! This is what I want from you and/or this is what I expect?!
DrFeelGood : Well Salt there is a difference and we will revisit that next week.